Ryan Dodge, Single-ish, Glamour Magazine

As a single guy in New York City, I'm so sick of hearing my girlfriends snidely observe that "all of the good men are either taken or gay." How would you feel if we went around saying "all of the good women are either taken or have daddy issues"? It doesn't feel very nice, does it? Today's bachelors aren't "creepy" and "desperate"--we're just selective. Read More »

I’m a worrier. It’s at least partially genetic—my grandma’s a worrier, my mom’s a worrier, and odds are my hypothetical rugrats will also be worriers. I stress about big things like my career and small stuff like whether I want falafel or tacos for lunch. As a general rule, I’m always at least moderately anxious about something. Read More »

Before launching into today's post, let's all take a deep breath and keep a few things in mind. It's not his fault. Maybe he doesn't realize how much it annoys you when he picks the funk out of his fingernails when you're watching TV after a long day. Even though you've politely asked him approximately 3,578 times to perform his nasty ritual in the bathroom. Even though you get manicures every other week just to impress him, not that he notices. Even though some of the stuff he digs up is downright repulsive. Even though--LORD ALMIGHTY, IF YOU DON'T STOP DOING THAT I'M GOING TO DISH YOU UP A DOUBLE HELPING OF SLAP STEW, HOLD THE POTATOES! Read More »

After a year and a half of relationship blogging, I like to think that I'm beginning to get a handle on the inner workings of the female mind. And then I read the Glamour.com slideshow about "8 Habits That Wreck (Even Great) Relationships" and learn that some of you are dating guys for their "potential". This is something men never do. Read More »

Those of you with good memories will recall a post I wrote a few months ago about things in my apartment that might scare women away. In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if some of you are still having nightmares about my roommate Scruff’s creepy dolls. But I don’t want to give the women of New York City the impression that I live in a scary bachelor’s lair that should be avoided at all costs. In fact, our apartment features at least five amenities sure to impress even the most skeptical female visitor: Read More »

Whenever I want to get my sister riled up, I'll start gushing about Natalie Portman, Penelope Cruz, Padma Lakshmi or some other perfect elevens. "Yes, Ryan, they're beautiful, but real women don't look like that! This is why you're still single!" She has a point--sometimes I do let my shallower instincts get the best of me. But I nonetheless consider myself a connoisseur of unconventional beauty. I'm gonna be straight with you--I have a nasty tendency to get distracted by people's physical "flaws", including my own. It's a significant character flaw that I'm working to fix. And I'm hopeful that I'll eventually get over it, because on more than one occasion I have grown attached to women who initially didn't really do it for me. After all, my idealistic sister and I were both raised to believe that the most important criterion for judging people is their character, not bone structure or body mass index. And we're not the only ones. While the celebrity culture we live in glorifies conformity and the pursuit of cosmetic perfection, humans are still capable of appreciating unique beauty. Here are a few celebrity examples.
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As I mentioned in my post about six missteps that won’t kill your chances for a second date, it’s natural to be a nervous before meeting a guy you’re really excited about. However, I’m a little worried about my fellow dating adventurer lindsgirl, who revealed the following: Read More »