Parenting

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Talking to baby: Smart or silly?

There is a distinct possibility that I’m losing my mind. Does it matter if I’m doing it for a really good reason? I hope so.

I talk all the time now. I talk about anything. I talk about cutting carrots, putting clothes in the dryer, and the contributions Charles and Ray Eames have made to design at large, and our living room in specific. I talk about Indian fiction in modern America, why coriander tastes like soap to certain palates, and how, in an effort to find them less repulsive, I’m toying with the idea of renaming diapers “tush clouds.”

Why am I doing this?

Because the American Medical Association and the U.S. Department of Education say it is a good idea. And because my son, Little Baby Z, is listening.

In fact, I told him as much the other day.

“Thing is, LBZ, most people--provided they’re not characters in Woody Allen movies or suffering from logorrhea--will not talk to you this much. But people who study babies say it’s a good idea to keep the conversation going because eventually something is going to click and you’ll start spitting out real words with intent. So I’m just trying keep the flow going, you dig?”

Just shy of his first birthday, LBZ had a brilliant retort in his native tongue, which, as close as I can figure, is equal parts babble, gurgle, and Hebrew. I’d like to believe he was saying "Yeah, Ma, I get it, and don’t worry—you’re not becoming a walking sideshow," or even "I prefer Art Deco to Mid-Century Modern," but I think it was probably closer to “You need to change my tush cloud."

Am I going nuts? Is this really a good idea? Did you talk to your kids when they were infants? Did it make either of you crazy in the long haul?

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  • Little Lady Bugs MOMMY's Avatar
    Posted by Little Lady Bugs MOMMY Tue Oct 6, 2009 1:01pm PDT

    I talk all the time to my 9 month old daughter. She looks at me like I am crazy, but what the hell. I am content she is content...thats all that matters. Right? My little one talks back with me. She carries a tune when I sing. As I sing ABC's she is singing along with me. I think itis a wonderful thing and to my knowledge it will help them learn in the future. Lets keep on doing what we are doing and forget what everyone else thinks.

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  • Mira Jacob, Shine staff's Avatar
    Posted by Mira Jacob, Shine staff Tue Oct 6, 2009 1:05pm PDT

    Thanks, LLB's Mom! Glad to know I have company on this crazy train.

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  • Kenda's Avatar
    Posted by Kenda Tue Oct 6, 2009 1:08pm PDT

    I don't have kids, but I talked a lot to my nephew when he was a baby because I kept him a lot and my dog Hercules. They helped me through some really confusing times in my youth so I can't say it's not a good thing. We are very close, my nephew and I.

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  • Mammina's Avatar
    Posted by Mammina Tue Oct 6, 2009 1:11pm PDT

    I always used to talk to my sweet 3 year old even when I was still pregnant. Now at 3 she is really a chatter box so I think it must have helped somehow!!!

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  • justokay's Avatar
    Posted by justokay Tue Oct 6, 2009 5:11pm PDT

    I talked to both my kids when they were babies and toddlers. I described in detail everything I was doing - just everything. Even in public. I whispered in their ears. Both are good in English and have a great grasp of language now.

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  • audi's Avatar
    Posted by audi Tue Oct 6, 2009 5:41pm PDT

    Y'know what, as for my experience with my little brother, it helps if you don't baby-talk him ALL the time. Talk to him just like he's an older kid - and as he grows up, you'll get freaked out at how he talks maturely for his age. Lol. Seriously though, I observed that it helps him become more articulate instead of resorting to little tantrums especially when he wants something.

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  • Brittany's Avatar
    Posted by Brittany Tue Oct 6, 2009 6:15pm PDT

    One thing my mother never did was talk to me like a was a baby. She talked to me like I was an adult, and therefore I had a huge vocabulary and spoke very well with adults when I was young. My mother never gave me any of that "cochy-cochy-coo" stuff. I think talking to your baby is a great idea.

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  • des's Avatar
    Posted by des Tue Oct 6, 2009 8:22pm PDT

    I talked to my lil' one even when I was pregnant and she is 3 months and I still do and it's so great to hear her coo soon she'll be talking a storm thanks to me but it's worth talking to u'r baby it stimulates there brain and they seem to pick up on sign language very quick to. I speak to my baby both spanish and English and it seems to calm her down every time I tell her I'm going to do something before I do itt such as I'm going to change your diaper and she'll kick her feet and knows and I tell her when she sucks herv tounge and puts her fist towards her mouth I tell her are you hungry, mom will feed you and believe it or not it soothes her. Alot of my friends who have kids too are amazed that my daughter seem's so alert she already has a tooth pooking out, she sits up, graps on objects, she turns over on her crib and it's so wonderful to see your little baby grow right before your own eye's. Cherish your kids while there little, each and every day. It's also benefical to you knowing you helped by just talking to them. I nurse my daughter and she seem's to be learning me just as much as I am learning her.

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  • Ms. Omayra's Avatar
    Posted by Ms. Omayra Tue Oct 6, 2009 8:38pm PDT

    I think talking to your child articulately is a great idea! I don't have kids but I would totally do that! However, to completely not baby talk at all is something I could not do. Baby talk is fun! It's entertaining. For some people, it's way out of character, but I'm really silly, I crack jokes and might as well be myself with my mini-me's! So, yes, a huge portion of the time, talk to your child in such a way that they will become intelligent young minds! But let's still be open to "yesh you are a little cutey cutey baby, yesh you are!"

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  • mary grace's Avatar
    Posted by mary grace Tue Oct 6, 2009 10:01pm PDT

    I think its a very intelligent idea to talk your child. I have now two chidren, seven yrs old and 4months old. When my first child is still a baby, i always talk to her articulately. Now she talks like an adult. On my second child, i still do it. It helps a lot in terms of communicating with others in times when they grew up.

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