How would you handle a situation where you were on a first
dinner-date with someone and soon into the date you quickly realize
that you’re just not “into” this person, so much that once this is
over, you never want to see them again?
Do you actually stay and finish dinner and then tell him afterwards
that you’re not at all interested in them?
Do you excuse yourself simply saying that this isn’t working for
you?
What’s the best way to handle a situation like this with minimal
drama?
A date with someone you soon realize you never want to see again.
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Posted by Wed Sep 30, 2009 1:49pm PDT
Report Abusestay through the dinner or go to the bathroom and tell your best friend to call you with an "emergency" and excuse your self.
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Posted by Wed Sep 30, 2009 2:38pm PDT
Report AbuseIt's only one evening. Even if the guy is a total bore or obnoxious, I would finish the dinner and find a polite way to wrap up the evening sooner than later. I would then send a very nice email thanking him for the dinner and that it was nice meeting him, but that I didn't feel we were compatible, had enough in common, right for each other, whatever the reason that applies, but never is it right to be rude or mean to someone UNLESS they did something that is clearly inexcusable behavior.
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Posted by Thu Oct 1, 2009 7:32am PDT
Report AbuseI had one where I wanted to leave when we first met, I stayed thru dinner, luckily since he was a pig he ate fast, before I was into my salad halfway he had finished his whole meal. The part scared me when he asked if I was ready to handle his 3 sons, a bit much for the first date. I left right after and sent a email and never heard formhim again! Then I had another bad one wanted to leave right away, I endured 6 hours of that date, and never sent anything to him, he was too scary! I have had my share.
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Posted by Wed Oct 21, 2009 5:09am PDT
Report AbuseI had lunch with someone once, in fact, actually enjoyed the walk, but excused myself with the non-compatible thing after luch, because THAT was true. I didn´t feel either intellectual empathy or physical attraction. Maybe he was just trying to impress me, but he didn´t!. I tried no to hurt him and after some years , I bumped into him with a girl in the street, they seemed quite happy and me too!.
Nobody got hurt or wasted time!
Regards.
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