BOYFRIENDS BIRTHDAYS...STRIP CLUBS???

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  Posted by Angel Sun Jul 12, 2009 12:44pm PDT

  I think that if he respected you as his girlfriend, he would decline going...There are other things he could be doing besides looking and lusting after other women...his sister should be ashamed...not a very good role model

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  Posted by innocence Sun Jul 12, 2009 1:02pm PDT

  i agree wit angel cause i wouldn't let my partner dare go anywhere to any type of club wit out me especially if i know gurls wil try and holla... oh hell no. u need to tell his siter and cousin sumthin n put em in there place quick.

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  Posted by innocence Sun Jul 12, 2009 1:02pm PDT

  i agree wit angel cause i wouldn't let my partner dare go anywhere to any type of club wit out me especially if i know gurls wil try and holla... oh hell no. u need to tell his siter and cousin sumthin n put em in there place quick.

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  Posted by Mistress Sun Jul 12, 2009 1:07pm PDT

  As your relationship grows and changes there will be times when you have to give your guy the benefit of trust. Actually most of the time it will be you who has to give your guy time and space. Men don't think the way we do, their minds aren't machter enough to understand that we worry about all kinds of stuff that can go wrong. Tell your guy that you don't want him to go but your not going to stop him and make sure that you tell him that you trust him to be responsible. A good relationship with your guy means that your going to have to tell him that he has to live his life the way he wants to. Taking control of what he says, where he goes and who he can be friends with will destroy what you have together and I'm sure that you would hate it if he stated to control you. Just make sure that when you don't like something he is doing that you say it.

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  Posted by Joboo027 Sun Jul 12, 2009 2:30pm PDT

  i think you are reading too much into this.remember he is going with his sister and cousin. also at the club, he will not be allowed to touch any of the dancers. most likely he will be so nervous about being in the club for the first time, he won't be doing too much other than watching. afterwards, you can always ask him about the experience and get a feeling of how he feels about places like that. david

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  Posted by ReeNee Sun Jul 12, 2009 4:14pm PDT

  i have to agree with Mitress and Joboo 100%!! you are both young and life is too short to worry about things like what he may or may not do.. if you are both in a committed relationship where there is trust, which may i add is one of the main foundations to a relationship, but all in all, you shouldnt need to feel like you need to keep tabs on your other half as well i am sure if the shoe were on the other foot, you may not feel that you need to have him clock ur every move, when he isnt with you.. i would let him go and experience what its like. its not as bad as it sounds. i actually enjoy going out to these types of clubs with and w/o my boyfriend.. you do need to communicate and express the fact that you arent comfortable with him going but also let him know you are ok if he chooses to in the end.. ask him how it was let him share the details, whether its something you want or really dont want to hear, because men dont normally use that side of their brains, unless sometimes probed. ( no offense to all men out there) but wouldnt you rather hear it from him than someone else who may elaberate the story of his night @ the club. plus it lets him know that he can talk to you and not have to hide certain things from you, in fear of you not approving or you blowing up in his face for something he said and has no clue what got you pissed off in the first place..trust, communication is key!!!

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  Posted by sweet_kisses Sun Jul 12, 2009 6:35pm PDT

  yes yes i know what you mean and also how you feel...i think you should tell him how you feel about this in a postive way also let him know how you feel towards it cause you do understand thats his family...and if he loves you he'll refuse to go to the strip club..if not he maybe really want to go..and than who knows what happens than later in your relationship..after all he is now 18 teen...and i remember all the things i did...and let me tell you is was always clubbing!!!!!

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  Posted by Jacque Sun Jul 12, 2009 9:47pm PDT

  I think it would be an excellent idea if you and him went together, however, i wouldn't put a damper on his birthday. Just ask him and see what he says. If he rejects your offer, then ask yourself if you trust him. If you trust him, then whether or not he goes to a strip club wouldn't matter.. although we both know what goes on at a strip club... Bottom line, I would head on to the club with him. Even better... strip for him... he would have no reason to head to a club if you ask me..=)

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  Posted by Patrick Mon Jul 13, 2009 8:33am PDT

  1) He's going with his sister and cousin

  2) A guy who knows he's trusted not to make a mistake, don't make a mistake.

  3) A guys who knows he's trusted and makes a mistake like that is just a boy and not someone who you should worry about anyway.

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  Posted by KittyKat Tue Jul 14, 2009 5:14am PDT

  Well if you really dont trust him what you could do is send a spy with him. Choose a friend of his or yours that will you tell you everything of what he does there. make sure the spy is someone who wont go running his/her mouth back to your boyfriend.

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