Hello all... I was just wondering if any of you ever felt like
you just wanted to give up... on men/women, jobs, & going
out, or do you just wanted to stay home and shut the
world out totally. I am just getting tired of being the
nice one.... what am I doing wrong with my life?????
1st. I was just laid off from my job, which sucks, I look
forward to going to work... I look forward to being busy... I (36yr
old) live alone, no kids, and most of my friends are married,
have kids or don't want to go out without their men... so going
to work is nice... you know getting out of the house.
2nd. One of my friends, that I talk to most, is going
crazy!!! She (my age) is married, has 2 kids, and now she has
four extra people staying at her house and not helping with
anything (bills, cooking, or cleaning)... which is none
of my business, but she complains about them being there all
the time... I tell her to do something about it, but she does
nothing... so I decided to take a break and not talk to her.
3rd I was not looking for anyone or a relationship (I was
happy just going to work) and then this guy showed up in my
life out of no where... I thought he wanted to get to know me, but
turns out I totally misread that... We really got along, he came to
my place a few times, we talked on the phone, and then
nothing...
So what all this comes too is... no job, a friend that is crazy,
and a guy that doesn't think I am worth getting to
know.
I realize I am not a typical gal... I love cars, Nascar, and
football... but holly crap how much do I have to deal with... it
totally amazes me, when I do meet a guy he doesn't like that I
am a car and sports gal... they get all upset because I like a
certain driver or that I like the wrong team (GO RAVENS!!!!) I live
in Steeler Country!!!
So what do you do when you feel like giving up, staying in bed all
day, and just shutting out the world???
DID YOU EVER JUST WANT TO.......
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Posted by Thu Nov 5, 2009 2:21am PST
Report Abuseyou cant give up, my wife joined the army and i thought seriously about giving up, sitting at home, divorcing her because i thought she didnt want to be around me, then i realized, hey, were one couple, but were two different people, so live your own life, dont give up, incorporate your partner and let them know your still a couple and they mean as much as they do to you, but dont put your self in a situation that you dont want to be in because their home-bodies, try and find a compromise, for you, a night out on the town, for them, relaxing at home with a movie, or a quiet dinner, or even jest you two being in the same house doing different things
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Posted by Thu Nov 5, 2009 5:51am PST
Report AbuseMost definitely....the job department, as I have been off and on looking since the last passing year and no luck....I am attending school, and even that to me sometimes do I feel like quitting on too! Believing by hearing all the 'talk' that all I have accomplished from years of education...was all in vain, and never paid off except for one greater area in life....the real truth of the 'whys and reasons' in life. What is really tiring is having to be awakened by all the competitions around a person in order just to 'keep' something in their life as we all are fighting and in this process do we all fail to realize that we are all raping each other in diverse forms and causing a lot of heart aches, disappointments, and failures in the games of LIFE. And as the strong always win...do they too fail to realize the corner they, with no help, place themselves to be seen as...
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Posted by Thu Nov 5, 2009 12:27pm PST
Report AbuseGive yourself a break. go take a trip and have some fun, get away from all those stupid people in your life. Seriously. I totally exploded and got sick of doing what everyone says. alot of people impose their wants/needs/ideas on you because you let them but the answer to that is to say "Thank you, for your advice." and keep going in the direction that you feel is best for yourself.
Nevermind what they say. Start a buisness, move away, tell everyone else to Fk off because it is your life. I have learned the hard way, believe me that it is not good to give your life away to other people's selfish needs and expectations.
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Posted by Thu Nov 5, 2009 1:38pm PST
Report Abusei know exactlly what you're going through. i am married (13 yrs), have 2 children and i have to have the most boring life ever.. my husbands family has always got drama going on amoungst them. and getting time alone with my husband.. forget about it.i just wish that he and i could get away.. no kids.. no phone calls needing my man to go take care of them and their problems.. no one but just us. and i have to wonder sometimes if HE really wants to have time alone with me like i do. this sh*t has been going on the whole of our marriage(his family always being "needy"). that situation just depresses me.. it makes me feel like they do'nt want us to have time together and neither does hubby.atleast that's how i feel. i did'nt say that i do'nt care anything about any of them.. it just gets next to me when they are constantly calling on him and i love my husband dearly.i've spoken to him about this once before and things changed for a while.. but it's right back to the way it was before. so yeah.. i know how it feels to just want to give up
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Posted by Thu Nov 5, 2009 5:21pm PST
Report Abuseyea i want to know if you start dating someone, that was on a dating site, the relationship seems to be going great, you took your profile off, but he still has hes on there, should you say something to him about it, and what should i say, or wait a while do see what happens,
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Posted by Thu Nov 5, 2009 7:44pm PST
Report AbuseI completely understand. I haven't dated in over a year as of oct. 23rd. I work, have a car, athletic, & love all the same things as you. Not to be conceited, i am a good looking guy. Although in my last relationship, the woman I was with was horrible. She would drink, do drugs and get violent. I've been asked out several times. I just can't get myself to go out. I want sex and that is wrong of me. I'm shell shocked. The fear of commitment is overwhelming. I thought that this woman would be the one. Now i think. f--- it. It is better of being alone then going through all the drama. It took me almost a year ot leave. I would think she would change. It only grew worse. It was so hard to leave because after 2 years with her I was in love and didn't want to lose that. My philosophy sucks. Why should I put all that work in just for something else to go wrong. I realize not everyone is like thi. Then again i didn't think ws either. She still calls me. At first she is sober. Then after about an hour or so she is all jammed up. Meeting sober, honest, good people nowadays almost seems so farfetched. Maybe you and I should hook up?
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Posted by Thu Nov 5, 2009 8:48pm PST
Report AbuseMaybe some of you are correct I do need to give myself a break!!! Like a vacation away from PA!!!
Kurstin Toby: Your a Ravens fan or just a NFL fan, and as for Nascar who is your driver? This is so cool... a guy that doesn't think I am nuts for liking this kind of stuff. I can handle the no dating thing, but sometimes it would be nice to have someone to go out with, or get a hug from!!
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Posted by Fri Nov 6, 2009 5:47am PST
Report AbuseI'm in a relationship all by myself. You sometimes you feel like giving up, but you look at the good in life ,life what you make it , go on a good long vacation live baby,live .
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Posted by Fri Nov 6, 2009 7:44am PST
Report Abusegirllll..i HAVE given up on men. As of last night. I'm 23 with an almost 4 year old and for some reason men think I have a sign that says "break my heart" worn around my neck. Just don't give up forever. Have one pity-party day and then keep it moving. You have to =]
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