How Manly Do You Like Your Man?

From the Community…

• 
  Posted by Ms Petunia Tue Jun 30, 2009 10:13am PDT

  I would have to say that every guy/girl is different. My bf now is manly, but he also has a non-manly side. I find it very attractive because it balances him out. Now, if he told me he danced as a child then I'd be ok with it. It's just part of who he is and how he grew up. If someone is going to put judgement on you because of your past then that isn't someone that you'd want to be with. They need to like you for you, not what you did.

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by opiniononly Tue Jun 30, 2009 11:10am PDT

  Manly is in the eyes of the beholder. What turns one woman off may turn another one on. Hopefully, one never has to apologize for what makes you unique. BTW, ballet is great...consider the pro jocks who have taken dance classes for agility...and no one will ever convince me that Gene Kelly, Fred Astaire, or the Russian ballet dancers (who's names I can't spell) were less manly because of their strength and skills.

  Dance on!

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by sche Tue Jun 30, 2009 11:25am PDT

  I love guys who are, as you put it, nuanced. If a man lets some arbitrary definition of "real" manhood dictate what interests he pursues, he's probably too boring for me. So bring on the poets, the dancers, the bakers, and the knitters (who maybe also fix cars or play football or ride bulls)--I'll be happy to take some off the hands of the girls who want "real" men.

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by None Tue Jun 30, 2009 11:28am PDT

  As long as he doesnt have a sweater on his back and looks like a monkey, all I care for is respect. But still ballet? The Europeans can pull it off, but still kind of strange to me, but whatever makes you happy!

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by Aj Tue Jun 30, 2009 11:57am PDT

  lol None! I knew this guy had a softy side to him! Its ok Ryan we women want our men to be a tad soft but at the same time man who is strong enough to protect her.

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by Doktor Eevol Tue Jun 30, 2009 1:19pm PDT

  Wow, that's a loaded question. That's like asking how womanly you want a woman to be. Either way, the real question is "How obedient do you want your partner to be in cultural gender stereotypes?"

  I don't believe gender is static, or defined solely by specific attributes (physical or psychological). I think that most people have a bit of both in them. I find some effeminate men just as attractive as so-called "manly" men. What's REALLY sexy is when someone is true to themselves.

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by j Tue Jun 30, 2009 3:58pm PDT

  Ryan, For Pete's sake! You are way too worried about what people think. I danced when I was about your age, including ballet. I put my son & daughter in dance classes when they were young. It didn't hurt my son anymore than it did my daughter - even though he was the only boy in his classes. Actually, I was the only guy in most of my ballet classes too. I found that it was a good place to find girls that had at least some of the same interests that I did. After all, how many girls did I ever meet who were playing football?

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by ladybella04 Tue Jun 30, 2009 5:56pm PDT

  No issues with ballet, but I did find it wierd when a guy I dated was more into shoe shopping than me (and like every other woman in the world, I love shoes!). I prefer to be more girly than my guy, but am ok with some manscaping. Just as long as it doesn't go too far- no manzillian waxing, please.

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by Sojourner Tue Jun 30, 2009 7:49pm PDT

  There are still a lot of gay men who won't admit it, I guess they need to get there gradually by way of a safer classification: "metro-sexual". I just wish you'd stop trying to make people think you're just a "sensitive" straight man.

  Straight men are completely different animals than gay men. Here's a little news flash for you: we can tell. We can tell by looking at you. And then everything you do and say just confirms it, no matter how you try to "metro-sexual" it up. Come on. There is no shame in our current society, especially in Entertainment, in just admitting who you are. If you want to live a straight lifestyle, fine. Be happy.

  But don't try to bull s--- people that you are anything other than a gay man. Because it makes women think their own straight man should be more like you and sadly, they just can't be.

  Report Abuse
• 
  Posted by Dubs Tue Jun 30, 2009 8:25pm PDT

  A man's INDIVIDUAL masculinity is his own as a woman's INDIVIDUAL femininity. It does not belong to a secret cabal of sociologists hidden in a secret fortress on Mt. Stereotype dictating the status quo on gender behavior . Notice the capitialized key word. Doktor Eevol has it right.

  Report Abuse