(This is a link to toy "O" Magazine called the Rolls Royce of Sex Toys about 2 years ago. It's called the Rabbit Habit and it's made in Japan with Honda Motor Parts! Use the code SAVE10 for 10% off of this rabbit. RABBIT HABIT )
They followed a couple through Sex Therapy and this amazingly brave couple allowed themselves to be recorded while they were in therapy talking through their issues. (They are married 19 years and having very little sex. It's amazing how common this is amongst long term couples.)
They gave a few tips I will share in this blog, too! All the credit goes to Oprah and Dr. Berman, though. I am just repeating it here!
Oprah and Dr. Berman discussed our anatomy and explained to women that we do not pee from our clitoris. (I thought only men still thought this. One word people - GOOGLE!) They explained that our clitoris was designed to ONLY give us pleasure and has no other functionality. They also explained my favorite piece of trivia- women have 8,000 nerve endings in our clitoris. Men only have 4,000 in their entire penis. WE GET DOUBLE the NERVE ENDINGS!
They gave women permission to try a vibrator and disussed how peri-menopause starts in our late 30's and 40's and can help to diminish a woman's libido. They gave an explanation to the "domination" fantasy alot of women have (like 60% of women fantasize about surrendering) and why so many of us have that fantasy. They talked about what happens to the testosterone leveles and how to have G SPOT orgasm! See my FAVE G SPOT TOY HERE
They covered alot in this one hour and I hope there will be a follow up to the episode. They echoed something I have said about 1,000,000 times to women who are shy about vibrators - IT WILL CHNGE YOUR LIFE if you have never had one. (Start small with Silver Bullet. It's $15 and nice and discreet and very un-assuming.) Sometimes, especially after menopause, it can help you rediscover that your mojo is still alive and well! Sometimes it just takes one fun session to get it all going again. The woman on the Oprah episode was proof of that! Read my article on "13 Ways to Use the Silver Bullet."
Did you see the episode? I would love to get your feedback and tell me which parts of the episode resonated with you.
10 Second Kiss Exercise from Oprah and Dr. Berman
If you have read my blog in the past, you know I am big fan of the kiss. Your lips are the closest erogenous zone to your brain. We all know it ALL starts in the brain. This is especially true for women. We need the REV UP and we have the most difficulty shutting off the "monkey running round in our brain."
Oprah and Dr. Berman suggest you try kissing your partner 10 seconds a day and don't make it always end in sex...but that would be nice! LOL. Just try it. See how much more connected you feel. See what it does for your sex drive. Your husband or boyfriend will be amazed by how much more responsive your body is when they kiss you for 10 seconds or more. Kissing helps women to SHUT OFF the "to do list" and become present. It also helps women to lubricate and helps to fill our clitoris with blood - which is the ONLY way we can have an orgasm.
One of my stock suggestions to women who are afraid of trying a Rabbit or other sex toy is to try MAKING OUT with your partner while they use the toy with you. You are holding each other, your lips are locked and your partner has the vibe in their hand. It makes you feel connected even when using a "device." YUM! Here's my #1 Favorite Vibe Ever!
Does the G-Spot Really Exist?
YES! It exists. I love the word Dr. Berman used to describe the G-Spot orgasm - she called the G Spot orgasm (which is inside the Vagina) in conjunction with the clitoral orgasm a "blended" orgasm. DELISH!
Your G Spot is about 2 to 3 inches inside of your vagina on the belly button wall of the vagina. She described the "Come Hither" technique and how it makes some women squeamish because it gives you a sensation of having to pee. (Just empty your bladder before looking for your g-spot and you will be just fine!) She suggests what I suggest and that is you should find your own g-spot first and then teach your partner how to find it. After you get comforable with that, you can move to a toy like my favorite G-spot toy .
Dr. Berman said that many women describe their g-spot feeling much like the tip of their nose. I have heard other women use the words "wet walnut" with spongy ridges. See if you can find yours tonight!
I love that Oprah shred so much frank discussion about sex, pleasure, sex toys and sexual dysfunction today. If anyone can get the word out and give women permission to experiment with sex toys it's OPRAH!
Ladies - remember - your clitoris has NO OTHER PURPOSE except to give you an orgasm. There is not other purpose or functionality. Your maker (whomever he or she is) designed this piece of anatomy to give you an orgasm. USE IT! It's great for your stress level, great for your cardio vascular system and will make everything else so much more tolerable!
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Blissfully,
Chrystal, The Toy Diva
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