When it comes to dating, how important are first impressions?

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  Posted by M G Thu Sep 25, 2008 7:10am PDT

  for me, i always seem to see the nicest looking guys or ones i would consider options when i look like a train wreck. it's usually when i just didn't feel like brushing my hair to go to the grocery store or when my friends drag me out for fun after work. i know, this is bad! i should always at least look 2/3 up on my game. lol. but when i want to make a good impression i try to dress sexy, but modestly so i'm not hanging out everywhere and definitely agree with you on limiting the alcohol! i've also made the mistake of "showing my cards" too soon. for reason, we all want that mystery and when you give it away there just isn't much interest left.

  when i see a guy, i'm going to look at his shoes. not because i'm looking for expensive shoes either...i'm no gold digger- but they actually tell A LOT about the guy. for instance, i look for guys with vans or converse because generally they are into the same kinds of music i am and are pretty laid back and not some sports fanantic. so, that is the same reason i wont look twice at a guy who wears tennis shoes, especially bright white ones. usually, this means they don't have any sort of personal style and/or are really into sports and need to be ready to go play basketball at a moments notice. no thank you. then if you've got a guy wearing some very classy leather shoes you will look to see if he's dressing them down with a nice outfit, but not overly pretentious, THAT is sexy. but yes, breath needs to be on point.

  oh, and keep your baggage stowed away or save it for a later date. i had a guy try to pick me up at the bar last week and he proceeded to tell me after five minutes how he found out a COUPLE OF MONTHS ago that he has an 8 YR old daughter. ok, two things wrong with that....he didn't know about the girl and i don't need to know that yet. we just met. also i find guys who go out in groups can be really annoying, especially if there's one that demands to be the center of attention by his actions all the time. if i see this, i steer clear.

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  Posted by *GoldenGirl*™ Thu Sep 25, 2008 1:40pm PDT

  I have met a few guys who are overly touchy within the first 2 minutes of meeting, I do not want there hands on me when we are strangers, he last guy walked in saw me, put his hand on my lower back and held it there until it was our turn at the coffee order counter, then he proceeded to pull our chairs as close as possible, he was in my space and he blew it right there. When he talked he was too close, it creeped me out, much too forward.

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  Posted by DANNEY Thu Sep 25, 2008 1:42pm PDT

  hi how do you figure out why your bestfrind is always mad at you?

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  Posted by princess Thu Sep 25, 2008 1:43pm PDT

  Good Impressions: He opens the car door for me, or any door for that matter, that's a turn on. He's wearing something nice, clean cut, smells nice, but not too too much cologne! Also, if he ask's me questions about me & my interests, instead of talking about himself all night. BAD impressions: Walking ahead of me, never opening doors, too much cologne, yellow teeth, bad breath and the worst of all, BRAGGING constantly about himself.

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  Posted by *GoldenGirl*™ Thu Sep 25, 2008 1:46pm PDT

  His overall grooming matters also, and if he hates his job and has to tell you every detail of why he hates it then its done. And if he eats with poor table manners, I met a guy who ordered soup and salad and he chowed down both of his before I even got 1/3 into my salad and then it felt odd to be eating, slow down, take your time, dont act like you never ate in public, pace yourself with your date.

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  Posted by bell Thu Sep 25, 2008 5:21pm PDT

  well, to be honest, first impressions never ment much to me. I knew my boyfriend for two years before we started dating. I always thought he was cute, but there certainly wasnt "love at first sight" but now, we couldnt be happier. Its all about who you are as a person and not about trying to look spectacular on the first date. If you're genuine, she should see that. If you're faking it to "make" her like you, she'll notice that too.

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  Posted by Jim Thu Sep 25, 2008 7:04pm PDT

  What bull! This is the biggest loser garbage on yahoo. By the time you finish "making a good first impression" your chick has decided to blow you off for the bad boy who just walked into the bar... Don't waste your time with this garbage, 99% of a chick deciding to give up the goods are a guy's attitude i.e. not being needy but indifferent, and his looks. Hot chicks aren't checking your hygene, for the right guy they'll screw in a scanky back alley.

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  Posted by Frenchy Thu Sep 25, 2008 9:25pm PDT

  First impressions can be very important, but I just act like myself and if they don't like the heck with them!

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  Posted by Ria Thu Sep 25, 2008 10:14pm PDT

  well yep for me first impression counts a lot but den its just not every thing that matters. I like guy who look neat and clean, wears a nice light perfume and are well dress.

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  Posted by Zain Fri Sep 26, 2008 4:31am PDT

  I think there is a huge difference in love or sex. a person who loves ones should like her or him good habits. but on the other hand if a person like sex they should like the body of that person..!!!!!!!!

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