Which Anniversary to Celebrate?

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  Posted by E. Boost Mon Nov 2, 2009 6:47am PST

  On November 4th my boyfriend and I will be together for 4 years. Were going out to dinner and he says he has a surprise later on, I wonder what it is! We usually celebrate every year, and we stopped doing "monthly anniversaries" after our first 6 months. I think the yearly one is important, my parents STILL do it and I think it's sweet to count the years. I think its fun if married couples celebrate their yearly ann and their wedding one as well. Hey, it's two celebrations in one year, so why not?! My parents also celebrate their wedding one, which is a few days after my birthday, so we get together for dinner and try to do stuff with one another that week.

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  Posted by Karrie H Mon Nov 2, 2009 6:52am PST

  I celebrate both, but if i had too choose it would be the day we got serious, because thats the day our lifes really changed! there would be no wedding if there had'nt of been that day!

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  Posted by pwsgirl Mon Nov 2, 2009 6:58am PST

  I personally think that one anniversary is enough. Once you get married, that kind of takes precedence over all the little "silly" other anniversaries you did while dating such as the first date, first kiss, first whatever. I really don't understand a need to continue actually celebrating any other dates after marriage, although I do acknowledge them by saying, "Happy Anniversary of our first date, etc." To each his/her own.

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  Posted by Chris S Mon Nov 2, 2009 7:09am PST

  We celebrate our first date anniversary every year by going out to dinner and getting each other a little something. Our first date anniversary is Feb. 28 and we live close enough to where we had our first date, that we go there for dinner now. Our wedding anniversary is Dec. 29 and we celebrate that as well, with a much bigger to-do than our first date anniversary. But, I never saw why we should stop celebrating the first time we went out together and thankfully, my hubby feels the same way. So, we celebrate both because there's enough crap going on in the world that two celebrations of love a year isn't a bad thing. :-)

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  Posted by Ahleah G Mon Nov 2, 2009 7:19am PST

  I am inclined to just get married around the same time of year we celebrate our current anniversary (mid-Oct). I like that time of year for weddings. Also, we don't actually have a number date that we celebrate as our anniversary, so it will give us one.

  I do think it is frustrating that when you get married all the years you were together before don't count. You know "we've been married for three years" instead of "we've been together for 6 years."

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  Posted by KelGard Mon Nov 2, 2009 7:27am PST

  We started seriously dating on Dec 19th and married 9 years later on Aug 19th. We always say something to each other to acknowledge the 19th of every month since it's a significant day for our relationship, plus it's nice to look forward to something once a month. My friends do this too and we call it "month-aversarys"

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  Posted by Constellation Mon Nov 2, 2009 7:59am PST

  For us, we make a much bigger deal about the anniversary of our wedding, but we do make the evening a special one on our dating anniversary-we'll make a special dinner and acknowledge it for being a special day in our lives.

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  Posted by Coug Girl Mon Nov 2, 2009 8:09am PST

  We don't really celebrate any of our anniversaries. We're not really a "Hallmark" couple. We just like doing little extra things all year round. Like my husband just sent me a dozen roses because he's hunting out of state. It's nice to remember each other every day instead of just on "special" days.

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  Posted by NamVet Mon Nov 2, 2009 8:52am PST

  ..............with my late wife of 28 years(78-06), we celebrated all and every anniversary we could remember. The first time we talked. The first time we kissed. The first night we spent together. The day we graduated college together. The birth dates of our children. The birth dates of our grandchildren later. Our marriage. We celebrated everything it seems, and always gave cards, and letters, and poems, and little gifts to one another. We also usually went out for dinner, or a weekend together. She really liked buying some new lingerie and spending a weekend at The Adventure Inn in Reno, and loving it up. After our third child was born, I decided/we agreed it better I have the vasectomy to ensure safe fun without worry of additional conceptions. That was 29 years ago. It never seemed to reduce my performance or her pleasure. I feel I would do anything for love, and my lover............

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  Posted by Mrs. Keeswood Mon Nov 2, 2009 8:53am PST

  We got together on New Years day, so we always celebrate it and acknowledge that as the day we got together and we got married on July 7th so thats the one we really go all out for.

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