Is it that we are utterly scared of the truth? Are there truths and
answers that should not be revealed, or better yet being hidden for
the delay of the inevitable? Approximately 8 out of 10
relationships get dragged out longer than necessary because people
are afraid to let go, the love factor, and/or both parties decide
to take another chance at romance with the same person with no real
solutions for fixing the problems they had from the beginning. It
is an epic tale of tranquility and calmness at first, everything is
going well...so you think, and then one day out of no where it hits
you, BAMM like a Mike Tyson hook to the abdomen and there you are,
left laying in the middle of the ring thinking about what just
happened and what could of possibly went wrong. Lets see if I can
paint the picture. You guys got in an argument Thursday, broke up
Friday, both parties go out and experience Saturday, speak Saturday
night, and again on Sunday, seemed to have patched up your
differences by Monday, had sex Monday and Tuesday night and were
back together Wednesday. Ever had this happen to you?
Don't get me wrong I enjoy sex as much as the next guy, or
girl. The sensation, the passion, the intensity and even the
morning after, but when the actual action starts to serve as a cop
out, or substitution for real issues that need to be discussed
that's when you have a problem. The idea of letting sex dictate
the health and stability of your relationship is a call for
heartbreak and disaster. But the combination of both open
communication and sex will allow a couple to gain knowledge, and be
able to comprehend better the wants and needs of their partner.
Communication is the foundation, sex is the reinforcement. Sex
serves as a quick temporary fix, not a gold bond treated permanent
fix. People place more value and worth on sex rather than answers
to problems, or ideas to difficult, complex situations which could
drastically improve the relationship.
The feeling sucks you in, then your body gives in, one thing leads
to another and next thing you know.....
Why do we substitute sex for solutions?
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Posted by Tue May 12, 2009 5:02pm PDT
Report AbuseYou are so right..lol. Had one relationship that was like that and I brought it to the table. The sex is good I told the my guy, But after that the issues and problems are still there. Since then I've just taken a serious time out from the sexual game. Because sex to me does speak volumes its more than just a physical act.
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Posted by Wed May 13, 2009 10:28am PDT
Report AbuseVery good points and I think you hit on a lot of truths that many of us don't want to face.
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