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Wednesday, November 25, 2009

You Know You're On a Bad Date When ...

Real guys and girls share the moment they realized they were on a bad date.
- Carrie Seim, BettyConfidential.com


It’s happened to all of us. You spend days getting ready for your date with a new guy. You pick the perfect pretty-but-sexy-but-demure-but-hip-but-not-too-hip ensemble. You manage to shave your legs AND paint your toes. You research schools for the children you’ll surely conceive with this man down the road, once you’ve remodeled your dream house together.

But somewhere between that first hello and the bridal veil, you find yourself crying in the ladies’ room, thanking God you don’t have to drive home with this loser, much less create offspring with him.

When did it all go so wrong?

There’s a sinking moment during every bad date when you find yourself plummeting over the This Sucks Falls. We asked guys and girls from around the country to tell us the exact moment they knew they were on a really bad date.

Let the following serve as a warning to you. If you encounter any of these bad date disasters, take solace in the fact that the worse the date, the better the story in the morning.

You know it’s a bad date when…

1. Your date uses you as a taxi service.
“I knew I was on a bad date when he asked me to drive and then wanted to stop at FedEx to drop something off. On a FIRST date,” a young woman from Hawaii told BettyConfidential.

But apparently, things could have been much worse. A man from Ireland shared this shocking but hysterical true tale from his teen years:

“I’m 17, on the first date and she tells me she has a kid, a cyst on her womb and needs a ride to the hospital the next day for tests. I respond by faking a car crash involving my aunt by having a friend in the same pub fake-call my mobile and offer to drop her home on the way to the ER.” When asked to clarify is this all really happened, he added proudly, “I have nothing to gain by lying here.”

2. Your date announces he’s not single.
“On a first date, this guy told me he was single ‘for the week.’ Happened just a week ago ... shame he's no longer available,” a comedian from Los Angeles quipped.

A professor from New York learned this lesson from show rather than tell. “We had known each other for awhile, then during our date he starts making out with a stranger in the bathroom.” Ouch!

Read: Why Men Cheat


3. Your date says he’s just not that into you.
A red-headed raven from California got served a flaming insult on a recent date. “He asked if I was a natural redhead because he didn't get along with redheads.” Who, we’d like to know, doesn’t get along with redheads? Is that some sort of birth defect?

And a man from Missouri received this not-so-subtle hint during a date: “I was given the book The End of the Affair by Graham Greene after I asked for some reading material for the train ride.” Ouch squared!

4. Your date has terrible taste – in clothes, in food, in life.

Sometimes it’s hard to pinpoint exactly why you don’t hit it off with a guy. Other times, it’s as clear as his orange underwear.

“He showed up in white shorts with orange underwear,” a Chicago single mom told BettyConfidential. “No lie.”

Another BettyConfidential fan from Florida said she knew she was on a bad date when “he asked if I preferred McDonald's or Burger King!”

And lest you think it’s only the ladies cringing on dates, consider this ego-bruising encounter from a young man in Portland. “She laughed for five minutes when I accidentally backed into a parked car,” he told BettyConfidential.


5. Your date suggests any sort of professional ice skating.
Strange as it may seem, this answer came up more than once. A Nebraska woman (now happily married) shared what could be our favorite bad date moment ever:

“He turned to me, beer in hand and said, ‘I see all the Disney on Ice shows!’ Worst part of this is that we were at Beauty and the Beast On Ice! He ‘surprised’ me with that, otherwise I never would have gone. It was our second, and needless to say, LAST date. Did I mention that we were in the front row – only the best seats for the Disney on Ice shows!”

We thought that one bad-date-on-ice was enough, but then we heard this terrible tale from another young woman:

“I have a friend who thought she was flying to Washington for the weekend to cuddle up by a fireplace in a cabin in the woods only to find out she was spending three days watching an ice skating competition. And once you're in another state, it's so much harder to get out of it! I, of course, laughed..., while at the same time being horrified.”

Moral of the story: Stay off the ice, ladies.

Fill in the blank: I knew it was a bad date when…


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  • another hockey fan's Avatar
    Posted by another hockey fan Tue Nov 3, 2009 7:23am PST

    1. They can't stop talking about themselves

    2. They like EVERYTHING you like

    3. They bring you gifts (not keeping it simple like flowers)

    4. They take phone calls during your date

    5. They drink A LOT during the date

    6. They are already talking about your next date with unbridled enthusiasm, while you are clearly looking for an exit

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  • Trini's Avatar
    Posted by Trini Tue Nov 3, 2009 7:44am PST

    I agree with "Another hockey fan" - all the things they listed happened to me [except the drinking thing]. I've been on so many bad dates its not even funny....

    This one guy, after telling me that he hopes I have money so we can go half on the bill [now I don't mind splitting the check, but telling me you hope I have money is a red flag], MADE it official on our way home. LOL. Yes, he TOLD me that I was now his gf. I didn't even know what to say and I didn't want to hurt his feelings but I did let him know that he wasn't for me a couple of days later lol.

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  • 80'sgirl's Avatar
    Posted by 80'sgirl Tue Nov 3, 2009 8:05am PST

    i was in my twenties and my friend set me up on a blind date.

    The night started out real good had a nice dinner and went dancing.

    We were at his favorite place where all his friends showed up

    (military base) first bad sign they started singing "elvira" as a group at my table, but i knew it was time to go when the guy i was on a date with proceeded to show me pictures of his 6 kids!!!! and telling me how i would make a perfect mom and when can we get married, because he was shipping out in a week for a 6 month tour.

    OK!!!!! big lesson i learned here just because they're unbelivably goodlooking doesn't make them stable in the head!

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  • Ashley's Avatar
    Posted by Ashley Tue Nov 3, 2009 8:09am PST

    I have to admitt, this is harsh, but just recently I went to dinner with a friend that I haven't seen in a while. The whole thing was really weird. I have a lot of respect for this guy, he has been through a lot in his life and lost an arm in a terrible car accident. However, that has not slowed him down! Literally! On our way to dinner, I was a nervous wreck with him driving and trying to talk on the phone. I know he is not able to get out much, but he had next to no manners, granted even something as simple as wiping your mouth can be difficult with only one hand. At first I was completely shocked at his lack of basic manners. But at the end of the night, I was left with the overwelming urge to try using only one hand, its a hell of a lot harder than I ever thought it would be. Something that we take for granted such as tying your shoelaces can be very fustrating and discouraging! Needless to say, I have a lot of respect for him, but I dont think we will be going out again any time soon!

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  • Ashley's Avatar
    Posted by Ashley Tue Nov 3, 2009 8:16am PST

    >>>Joestte, honey if you mean what I think you mean by P, then you know Exactly how it happened! I think we all had to watch those silly movies in health class that explained everything. And if your really worried, then go to the nearest drug store and buy a test. This weekend my friend who has no job and 2 kids just revealed to me that she thinks she could be "P" and I immediately rushed her to CVS, purchased the test, and made her take it in the restroom of the pharmacy. These days they can detect up to five days before your missed period, and you can always find a good generic brand that does the same thing that the really expensive ones do. In any case, hunny I wish you the best of luck, raising a child is tough work, no matter what age you are and how much energy you have. I will pray for you my dear, and I just hope in the future you will turn to GOD and know that things like sex can wait untill you have found someone that wants to be with you for life...then you can make that step with some one you trust. You will feel better about yourself and about your relationship with GOD.

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  • None's Avatar
    Posted by None Tue Nov 3, 2009 8:25am PST

    I can't believe that woman left the "Disney" freak LOL, most people are such annoying cheeseballs, it is sooo hard to find a grown person not into stupid blah peverted comedies or cartoons, cartoons are cool, just not certain ones, but where are the hot guys who are "normal" and like horror LOL! But anyways, ya bad dates is someone who agrees with everything, but then, someone who is very cocky opinionated and has no manners and respect.

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  • AnnMarie's Avatar
    Posted by AnnMarie Tue Nov 3, 2009 8:53am PST

    .....when you and your date leave the restaurant and he pees in the parkling lot! enough said.... lol

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  • candice's Avatar
    Posted by candice Tue Nov 3, 2009 9:27am PST

    Hahahaha ... yes AnnMarie - definitely enough said!

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  • Candice's Avatar
    Posted by Candice Tue Nov 3, 2009 9:30am PST

    That's gotta be bad ... "Oh by the way I'm not single ..."

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  • Krysten's Avatar
    Posted by Krysten Tue Nov 3, 2009 9:46am PST

    i once went out with a guy to a club with some of our mutual friends. he got hammered and kept trying to dance on the boxes with the gogo dancers and later i walked in and saw him making out with one of the girls we came with at the bar. THAT was the point i knew he was a jerk

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